Build A Marriage That Lasts.
Understanding Love, Will Give You Clarity.
Understanding the "Root" Cause of Conflict, Will Give You Peace.
Understanding Intimacy, Will Bind Your Hearts Together Forever.
Coaching Couples To Build
Marriages That Last.
We Help You Start Marriage Right!
Divorce is a word nobody
wants to talk about.
Ask a person about their childhood and it usually starts with. "My Parents were divorced when I was....'' If this is your story you never want to feel that pain again. You never want your children to experience the chaos divorce created in your life.
At Before i Do we make it our duty to eliminate divorce in your life. We want you to have much more than lifelong commitment. We want love, joy and happiness to be the norm not just some hoped for dream.
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"All Men Want is Sex" (In reality what men want goes much deeper than sex)
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Will I Marry The Wrong Person? Our proven coaching system will give you the clarity you can trust!
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"He/She Makes Me So Mad" (Until you take responsibility for your own emotions your life is out of your control)
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Love Never Fails! Relationships end because people stop loving, not because love fails.
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Do you really think you can ignore "Red Flags"? (Learn how to have those tough conversations or live in fear)
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The truth is: Divorce hurts everyone it touches!ve
A Clear Path Forward.
Do you want clarity in your marriage? The answer of course is "Yes". No one wants to be confused, frustrated and live in chaos all the time. Let me ask you this. "Do you have clarity in your relationship? Does it make you nervous to even stop and think about it?"
When you really stop and think; what kind of marriage do you want? The answer may not be as easy as you think. Logic says we all want purpose and clarity but in reality most choose uncertain chaos and ultimate failure. Why?
Clarity requires work, it requires change. Often when love is young and fresh we don't want to mess with that feeling. If we dig to deep we might uncover things that make us question our feelings of love. We also want the approval of others more than we want lasting love and happiness for our own relationship.
Ok this sounds crazy, but let me explain. Many people fall in love with an idea. "Wow they are beautiful and make me look good." "He has money and status." "My parents really like her." "My friends really like him."
We also do things because we think we have to. "All men want sex so it's something I have to do." "I really want to change careers but I know being a teacher does not pay well."
If you want the approval of others I hope you find your way through the chaos and frustration.
If you want a great marriage what does this work and change look like?
A great marriage is made up of two people who have both at some time in their life had this thought: "Wow, I get it that I don't know everything but I want to know as much as I can. I want this love in my heart to grow stronger and stronger and I am willing to do what it takes to make that happen. I am like a thirsty man in the desert looking for water!"
Couples who work with me fill out required assessments honestly. They are not thinking "I know she would want me to say this so I will." Clarity requires a deep down honest look at who we are. Sure we will all find stuff we don't like but when we learn to "take out the trash" from our lives it gives our relationship permission to move forward and a freedom so deep and rewarding we will never go back to the way we were.
You know you are on the right track when you look the love of your life in the eye and you know they love you. Even though they know all your stuff they believe in you, they trust you and want to build a life with you.
A great marriage is not made up of perfect people. A great marriage is made up of two people who are committed today to give all the love they can to their spouse because they have done the work and they have a heart overflowing with love they can't wait to give away.
If your heart "burns" to have this amazing type of love Click the link below. Schedule a Free call with me. At the end of our call you will have a plan and a clear path moving forward to experience the marriage you always hoped for.
Stop Fighting and Start Solving Problems.
Fighting, frustration and chaos! Is this normal? Isn't this the hard work every married person talks about?
"Of course I get mad when he talks like that! Who wouldn't?" "At some point I stop listening. She goes on and on and on."
The merry-go-round of conflict destroys love. The amazing feelings we had over time start to slip away and for most married couples they reach the point of no return. They see no way moving forward and they divorce.
For great couples, fighting is not normal. Frustration is rare and hopelessness virtually never happens.
It starts with each person understanding the cause of conflict in their own hearts. We have to look "inside" ourselves first. When a person understands their own internal conflict they can recognize conflict when it comes and they can choose how they want to respond versus reacting at the moment and regretting it later.
When you understand this framework for handling conflict the game changes. You have hope for solutions. As a couple you start to synergize and work together for positive outcomes. Love grows, it deepens and real peace settles into your heart. Not because you will live happily ever after but because you know that as the daily problems come up you will conquer them together. There will be nothing you can't handle.
This process has changed the lives of many couples. It has revolutionized police departments where the worst kind of conflict occurs.
It works and it will work for you!
Click the link below and schedule a call with me. Learn how to live in peace instead of reactive anger.
Why Sex is The Most Important Part of Marriage.
Is sex really as good as most people say it is? What do you know about sex? Did you learn from your parents? Your teachers? Your friends?
If you're having sex before marriage, why? "It's fun!" "Everyone else does! Why not?" "I have to, I can't live without it!" (We call that addiction)
If you're not having sex before marriage, why? "I'm not supposed to! The bible say's not to." "I have been told my whole life it is dirty and gross and I'm scared of it."
The purpose of marriage is showing the world and each other you are committed to one another. You have chosen your person and your focus is on each other. (At the very least you want to make sure you are actually the father of all those kids your wife keeps having!)
When the Bible says "Two shall become "One"," What does that mean? Traditional thought says when intercourse has taken place this "oneness" occurs.
Solomon and Paul in the Bible call it a great mystery. Modern science has opened the doors to what really happens. It turns out "oneness" occurs during orgasm. The brain is flooded with hormones and very strong distinct changes are made in the brain. If you keep having orgasms with the same person the brain physically changes and you develop this mystical bond the Bible talks about.
Sounds fairly simple and straightforward. But here is where it gets confusing, frustrating and hard to talk about. So if 'oneness' occurs during orgasm what happens if he orgasms but she doesn't? Some think, "We are virgins. We have never had intercourse!" The scientific truth is if you cause each other to have orgasm you are having sex. The changes in the brain happen because of orgasm not because of how you made the orgasm happen.
Are you now completely confused? Sex was created to be beautiful, amazing, fun, with only one person and should I say "sexy"?
I take the confusion out of sex for my clients. Once you understand how sex works in the brain you can work together to create the most powerful bond known to man! A couple who develops this bond overtime loves their family and friends and they love their kids with all their heart. However, they don't usually live with extended family or friends, and in time kids leave home. A couple who has this amazing bond cannot imagine living without each other. They have sex almost every day and they can't imagine being apart.
Every couple is different. I will walk with you through your thoughts and ideas about sex. Some of you fear sex. Some women completely deny themselves and say "I hope it's good for him". This is so wrong!! It needs to be just as good for her too!! Some men and women have performance issues that need to be worked through. Some of you are addicted to sex. (Masturbation)
I help couples figure out what holds them back from bonding together and having a lifetime of great sex.
Click the link below and schedule a call with me. Create the connection and bond you always dreamed about. Have more and better sex than you ever dreamed possible!
Don't wait! The call is free.
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HIGH PERFORMANCE COACHING FOR COUPLES
- Book a strategy call with me.
- Take the assessment.
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High Performance Coaching
- Assessment
- 12 Sessions - 1 each week for 12 weeks.
- 3 Follow-up Sessions - 1 every 3 months for 9 months
- Each week will be an in-depth look at one section of the assessment.
- In-depth look at your specific needs as a couple.
- In-depth look at the framework on how to resolve conflict.
- In-depth look at the power and beauty of sexuality
Troy was a pleasure to work with and was able to break down each facet of our relationship with relative ease and offer sound counsel and guidance. Above all, each session was Christ-centered and the quality of each session was phenomenal! I highly recommend him to anyone and will definitely go back for some "refresher" sessions."
Alberto & Raquel
We want to say thank you for continuing to help us in our marriage and helping us to push our boundaries and never settle for anything but the best.
Kyle & Kelsey
After working with Troy, our relationship has continued to deepen. We're more honest with each other. We openly share what's on our minds; both joys and our concerns. Our Self-assurance has increased. We truly are each others best friend. It doesn't matter what the activity, we're just happy to be together. Working with Troy definitely launched us into the beginning of a happy and fulfilled marriage!
Tim & Mindi
19 Things
Every
Couple Should Know About Love!
At Before i do we help you avoid the pain of divorce by starting Marriage right with a proven coaching system that works!
At Before i do we know you want to be in a lifelong happy marriage. In order to do that you need the desire to learn and the right information.
The problem is people you trust may have let you down and things have happened in which you had no control. You feel afraid, insecure and you worry you won't be able to figure it all out. We believe we can help you. Love can thrive and last. Divorce is not inevitable. We understand relationships are hard. You want someone who really sees you, listens to you and understands the unique personality and talents you have together as a couple.
For 31 years I have been teaching, coaching and driven by the success of my students, players and clients. Here is how we do it:
Step 1. Schedule a free call with me.
Step 2. During our call, we create a customized plan moving forward.
Step 3. Purchase the package that works best for you.
Schedule a free call with me so you can stop fear, frustration and that deep down feeling that divorce could happen to you. Instead you can have a happy marriage and life-long growing love for each other. You can be secure that no matter the issues you will work as teammates to conquer anything.
You can have that rare connection, a deep inner desire to be closer to each other. Sex that not only curls your toes and leaves you breathless but deepens your soul and fills your heart with deep lasting love. You are "one" and you can't imagine a world without each other!
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